In my 5 Steps to ‘Non-Overwhelm’ post, I promised to address three additional ways to keep our companies – and lives – on track:
6. Shutting the business down each week (Gasp!)
7. Wrangling paperwork (Hmmm.)
8. Getting our schedules under control (How?)
Today, let’s learn this valuable-though-somewhat-painful lesson:
The world can get along without us for a while.
Step 6: “Shut it down!”
If we are solopreneurs, we need time away* from our business.
If we have 423 employees, we need time away* from our business.
When we ignore this premise, we’re candidates for a bad experience:
[“No one can do this better.”] + [Micromanagement] = [Burnout]
* Including business email and phone. (“We need smelling salts over here!”)
In my twenties, I learned the burnout lesson the hard way.
Important things crowded in, and I welcomed them all into my life.
(“C’mon in. I can handle y-o-u.”)
It’s a years-long story of taking on every project thrown at me and ‘working my fingers to the bone’ to hear those “Atta girl!” accolades.
What’s important to this discussion is the result:
• Dragging around with no energy
• Brainbox shutting down
• Two weeks of invasive (ouch) testing at clinics and hospitals
• Lots of doctors saying, “I’ve never seen ….” (Yikes)
• Three weeks on bed rest with yucky meds
Trust me. You don’t ever want those last two. Oof!
So much for “The world can’t get along without me.”
All of the gains I’d made by overwork?
Skillfully kept in place by someone else.
The projects no one could run as well as I could?
Yep. Skillfully kept in place by someone else.
Building in the Step 6 non-overwhelm
The speech from my physician (which began, “We’re not sure …”) ended with:
“There’s a little word in the English language you
need to learn. It’s easy. It’s pronounced … ‘No.'”
That’s when he slapped me with bed rest and a regimen of monster pills.
I had FOMO [‘fear of missing out’] before FOMO was a term.
“Bed rest? Are you kidding me?”
‘Bed rest’ did not include scrapbooking (sigh), helping the cat (who was in a leg cast), or cooking (hmmm). Thankfully, The Husband is a good cook.
Other than bathroom breaks, I was allowed to read in bed and take a hot shower each day. Yep. That was it.
Think you can’t get tired of lying around reading for three weeks?
Yeah. I was wrong, too.
Learning to say “No” changed e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g
I talked with friends who (a) always seemed calm, cool, and collected and (b) were always ‘on top of things.’
As a Type A to the bazillionith degree, I admired those people.
My question for them was simple: “How do you do it?”
Pretty much, they all told me the same things (which was easier to hear from them than from my doctor):
• Schedule time off and ‘ink it in’ on the calendar.
• If anyone asks for booked time, your answer is “No.”
• If you don’t want to do something, say “No.”
• Take a nap. Watch a movie. Take another nap.
• ‘Scheduled’ doesn’t always mean you’re working.
It. changed. my. life.
Here’s an attainable/sustainable goal
I try to close my office for two days each week. These are not necessarily consecutive days, and they may not include Saturday.
This can be tough if I’m in the middle of your book edit, strategic website assessment, or I’m proofing your blog post.
If the calendar is especially tight, I forfeit my second day.
But … everything shuts down on Sunday.
(Just following God’s example to us. I doubt He needed a nap. 😎)
I mean it when I say everything.
No business phone.
How do you think I’ve re-read Gone with the Wind,
House Divided, the Left Behind series, and all those
O’Malley books several times?
(Don’t get me started about DVD boxed sets.)
A bit of irony for you: as I write this, I’m in my office at 7:00 a.m. on a Monday (groggy grumble) to work on this post.
And I’ll be here tomorrow and Thursday, too.
Why? A last-minute chance for a non-working lunch with one of my proofers.
To get my second day off this week, this night owl must adjust. Big time.
(This is one reason to leave slack in your calendar.
But, that’s for the Step 8 post 😎 )
I do keep a small notebook handy when I’m in shut down mode. I’m not going to lose a good idea for your website or my blog post.
Here’s my promise to you
The more you walk away from doing too much, the easier “No” becomes.
It was so hard for me. At first.
Here’s what I discovered:
As my mindset changed, it felt good to add another “No” to the list.
It was a game with one player … and I won.
Hang in there. It’ll happen for you.
A final thought …
This doesn’t count as an official shut down, but it may help you work toward one:
In late March, I hit the road – from snow country – to plunk down at Jacksonville Naval Air Station. I tagged along on The Husband’s airline maintenance training trip and worked on my book.
Same work. Same calendar. Change of venue.
The sunshine, palm trees, and 75º helped.
A lot. 😎
The refreshment factor of a different environment works wonders:
[Working] – [The usual interruptions] = [Surprisingly productive work]
Granted, we rarely have a nice five-states-away retreat in our picture.
But when there isn’t time for a shutdown, any change of scenery can be a big help.
Find a way to take this step!
Join the Conversation: Let’s discuss “The world won’t revolve without me” mode.
• What do you see as a good first step to remedy this situation?
• If you’ve broken free of this habit, what was most difficult during your transition?
• How have you helped someone else get past this ‘always on’ mindset?
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Let’s learn from each other and take another step toward non-overwhelm.