(I know you’re familiar with my “[QW]” and “[GOAL]” designations, but here’s a new one: for newsletters addressing my flagship concept of Non-Overwhelm in a major way, I’ll use the tag “[Non-O]”.)
As the Queen of Non-Overwhelm, I had to send these two stories your way.
A friend recently told me about trapping themselves into wwaayy overpromising their time. This is big stuff, including international travel that will take them halfway around the world.
By the time we talked about it, nothing could come off the schedule. They were stuck by the promises they’d made. We’re working on “No” solutions for next time.
Don’t forget the “No”
If you’ve read my book, you know I speak specifically to this issue. It almost (literally) killed me when I was in my mid-20s. It’s hard to tamp down that grizzly bear of saying “Yes” to everything once it starts charging in your direction.
Learning to say “No” may save our lives.
According to my doctors, it saved mine.
I used to place too much on my schedule. Heaven forbid I disappoint someone by telling them, “I’m sorry, I can’t make that work right now.”
Sometimes we forget to enjoy the good things in life. For example, s.l.o.w.i.n.g down, sitting outside, and reading a book. You can do it!
The incredibly freeing “No!”
This goes for our families, too. When the school year ended in May, I suggested something to one of my goals accountability clients.
The family’s life was out of control. Carting three kids to their eight I-can’t-live-without-it whatevers? U.n.s.u.s.t.a.i.n.a.b.l.e. I suggested:
“Now’s the time to say ‘No’ to that many activities. You’ll get pushback, but having it all isn’t the way the world works. It won’t hurt to learn that now.
“By the time school starts in the fall, your kids will know which one outside-of-school activity they’ll pursue the first semester.
“Slow down. Be together as a family. After all, that’s your full-time-most-important job, no matter who you work for.”
After the initial weeping and wailing, 😎 it worked out pretty well. A daughter interested in sports is signed up for the first semester. A son who’s involved heavily in the music department will stay there all year.
“We have a busy lifestyle” is not a badge of honor.
Don’t forget the “No.” I know it’s worth it.
My clients and I have lived it.
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Kathie York is the Queen of Non-Overwhelm and a Goals Accountability instructor. Students love her unique goals training program (the ultimate in non-overwhelm, right?) Check it out here. Although Kathie’s office is near Indianapolis, Indiana [U.S.], she works with colleagues worldwide.